A Servant of Love, Not Slave of Lust

“Sex is given for our good. But God gave sex to be the servant of God and never the slave of lust. God intends for love to express itself in the commitment of marriage, and only then for intimacy to unite us in the joys of sexual love.”

– Richard Phillips & Sharon Phillips, Holding Hands Holding Hearts, p.143

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Love Like Christ Loved the Church

“A Christian man should seek to win the respect of the woman he is dating. His outlook is shaped by a husband’s duty to love his wife: ‘Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her’ (Ephesians 5:25). This does not require a man to fall in love on the first date. But if he is to love a woman, it is to be the kind of self-sacrificing love shown to us by the Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus ‘gave himself up’ for his bride, the church, dying on the cross for our sins. Likewise, the Christian man is to put the spiritual and emotional well-being of a woman he is dating ahead of his own needs and desires. Unlike the norm for worldly men, the Christian is not to exploit the woman sexually, emotionally, or otherwise, but to minister to her needs so that she will be blessed.”

– Richard Phillips & Sharon Phillips, Holding Hands Holding Hearts, p.71-72